Radical Self-Acceptance


Paradoxically, the more we try change ourselves, the more we inhibit change from happening. When we open ourselves up to experience who we are the more likely we are to change.

Often times when people come to therapy they have come to the conclusion that something needs to change. Although change is frequently the goal in therapy, an eagerness to change can actually be a block to moving forward. When radical self-acceptance is incorporated during your struggles you create a calm and confident starting point to move forward. Without radical self-acceptance during your struggles you add suffering to your suffering. Adding suffering to your suffering might look like judgment about your feelings, impatience with yourself, or frustration about having a struggle to begin with. Self-acceptance can be challenging when we face problems that are culturally taboo: Addiction, Sexually Compulsive Behaviors, LGBTQ issues, and more. These problems carry a significant amount of shame with them and radical self-acceptance can release you from the shackles of stigma.
Radical self-acceptance is about having compassion for yourself, being patient with yourself, and accepting your humanness. A stressful environment inhibits learning/growth and radical self-acceptance can create a safe inner space to gently move through challenges. This is a radical concept because it goes against the messages you may have received in your family or the beliefs you may have acquired from your political and social context. As challenging or as awkward as it might be at first you must choose to embrace who you are and where you are right now. Radical self-acceptance opens you up to your potentials. The second paradox of change is that the slower we move in therapy the faster we see change.

Cameron Reis, M.S., MFTI 96516

Methamphetamine Recovery

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For one reason or another, you have finally decided to quit using crystal meth.  Now what?  The process might seem daunting and terrifying, and it may not even be your first attempt at quitting.  Unfortunately, there is not one universal outline as to what the process will be like for each individual.  One thing that is unquestionable and inevitable, however, is the emotional and physical changes that one will endure from experiencing withdrawal symptoms.  These symptoms can differ and for some last as short as three days and for some as long as a month.  The typical physical symptoms one experiences during this time is the body and brain’s fight to survive by sleeping, eating, drinking, and a whole lot more of sleeping.

Once you are through this initial phase, one might actually find themselves feeling “good,” in fact, even feeling “great.”  However, that feeling will not last too long.  In the range of about two months into recovery, a time will come when the feelings of depression is bound to occur.  Use of an antidepressant, such as Wellbutrin, can be extremely beneficial in getting through these feelings of despair.  While the chance of relapse is higher during this time due to the feelings of depression that may seem too difficult to manage, Wellbutrin is an option that has shown to be effective in reducing the depression-induced cravings associated with withdrawal symptoms.

You do not have to endure methamphetamine recovery alone.  The combination of an antidepressant such as Wellbutrin, in addition to working with a professional here at Counseling Center for Sexual Health (CCFSH), can help make what can seem like a daunting and terrifying experience more tolerable, manageable, and successful.  If you find yourself ready for recovery, we look forward to hearing from you.

-Lynne Tunick, M.S., MFTI

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